Correct me if I’m wrong, but from what I know, there is a difference between Asian and Americanized parents’ attitudes towards sexual relationships in college.
Asian parents want their daughter to stay chaste and focus on getting that honorable medical degree in college. But once the daughter has graduated and has a practical, steady career, they cannot shut up about her finding a man before she turns 30…assuming she’s saving her maidenhood for marriage, of course.
But with my Caucasian girlfriends, what they tell me is that their parents have been pestering them to find a boyfriend since they were in high school. Their parents teach them about safe sex and basically imply, “Go forth and get laid, so long as you be safe!” Obviously not in middle school, but once they hit 20, it’s kind of expected that they’ve already lost their virginity.
Two very different attitudes, but the final consensus is still that a girl needs to find a man in her life some time in her life in order to be fulfilled and happy. In today’s society, if you’re a 20-something college girl who’s single, apparently there’s something wrong with you.
I must be a freak then, because I’m a 23-year-old single (and virgin) college girl in Southern California who has never ever gone out on a single date, let alone go steady with a guy.
I resent that.
I used to get pissed off when people ask if I’ve got a boyfriend, and when I say no, they go quiet, as if I just said I had cancer. They coo sympathetically, patting me on the arm, “You’ll find one some day.” Or worse, they ask, “So, are you a lesbian?”
I wasn’t not offended by the lesbian part, but more so by the assumption that a girl needs to have a romantic partner or she’s pitiful. You don’t really hear that for the guys. What’s that all about? What makes a single man okay, while a single woman isn’t?
I expect it gets worse with age. 40-something single men are sexy bachelors, while 40-something single women are either career-driven bitches, or sad, bitter cat ladies (sadly, I play to the stereotype because I plan to get a cat one day).
Can you tell I’ve been watching too much “Sex and the City” lately? My parents were right—that show is a bad influence on me.
But it’s actually something I’ve been wondering about for years, ever since I got the “So you swing for the other side, huh?” comment too many times. I no longer get irritated; I’m now merely curious.
Mimi and I got a good laugh a year ago when her mother thought Mimi might not be straight because she hasn’t been too interested in dating. And of course, since I hang out with her often, she thought I was Mimi’s lesbian partner.
Well! Let’s just say I’m super glad it all got cleared up before I finally got to meet Mimi’s mother a couple weeks ago, or it would have been quite the awkward “meet the parent” moment.
I’ve heard a lot about her from Mimi, so I was pretty excited to meet her. As expected, Mimi’s mom looked like an older version of Mimi. They share the same delicate, pretty features.
A day later, the mother and daughter duo treated me to dinner at True Food Kitchen at Santa Monica Place.
We chose this place because Mimi’s mothert just discovered that she’s got severe gluten or wheat allergies, and True Food Kitchen is a gluten allergy-friendly restaurant.
I really liked the decor of True Food Kitchen. It’s a very modern and chic place— very Santa Monica. It was also packed with beautiful, slim people and more blondes than I’ve ever seen in one spot. Lots of plaids and polos, too.
They had these little trolley bins of edible plants outside their restaurant that tickled me.
I guess this is supposed to be city gardening. Kind of cute! I want one with tomato and basil and Korean lettuce!
They also had an outdoor patio for beautiful people to be seen.
The interior was really intelligently designed to make it look wonderfully spacious and clean.
Hardwood floors that were polished so finely that it reflects back the posh dim lights hanging from the high ceiling, neatly arranged tables and chairs, a few communal round dining tables…all designed to maximize and utilize space.
Today’s dining fad seems to be open kitchens:
Hee hee, check out the mustached cook grinning at me! That was adorable.
We shared an appetizer of shrimp dumplings:
Steamed shrimp dumplings with shitake mushrooms, ginger and broccoli in a soy-and-ginger based sauce.
Damn. This was the nastiest dumplings I’ve ever had. It tasted like it was defrosted and sat out in the heat for too long. The wrapper was gummy, the shrimp was a strange combination of bitter and bland, and the soy-and-ginger-based sauce was cringingly salty.
Thankfully, the bad food ended there.
Mimi ordered All Natural Certified Angus Beef Steak Tacos:
Steak on tacos with cojita cheese, tomatillo salsa, sour cream and Anasazi bean with extra avocados.
I stole a bite and it was delicious. The steak was nicely cooked till tender, though I think the cojita cheese was too sparse. In my opinion, the whole dish was just kind of small. Good flavors, but teeny weeny portion.
It look good, but uh…tiny. It was barely the size of a standard bowl of rice.
I got the Grass Fed Bison Burger:
Half-pound bison burger with mushrooms and onions, mayonnaise and Parmesan shavings on flax bun, with a side of hash sweet potatoes and kale salad.
I’ve heard a lot of good things about bison meat, but this was the first time I got to try it…and I see what the hype is about!! It tasted a lot like beef, but a higher quality one…sort of like a really really good grass-fed beef.
The bun was a bit too hefty though; I could barely get my mouth wide enough to chomp down, but I suppose that’s part of the fun of eating a burger—you gotta have some juice dripping down your fingers!
The kale salad was tender and tangy, topped with Parmesan and bread crumbs. Pretty good, both taste wise and texture wise.
The sweet potato hash was nicely cooked, though I would have preferred a bit more char, but then it wouldn’t be “healthy” because of the carcinogens.
The menu at True Food Kitchen was all over the place, from Thai curry to Mexican tacos to Italian ravioli and Bolognese. My advice to any future True Food Kitchen patrons is to stay clear from the Asian dishes. And I know it’s a “healthy” place, but if anything, this is the spot to have your burger and eat it, too.
That said, it was an absolutely lovely night. Both Mimi and her mother are talkers, which suited me just fine because I’m more quiet late at night and my mouth was full of ground bison and flax bread. I don’t have the best table manners, so I didn’t want to horrify Mimi’s mother by talking with my mouth full.
So while I chewed on my yummy burger (hopefully with my mouth closed, uh…I don’t remember), Mimi and her mother amused me with stories of the old days when Mimi was a wee darling that could be a real rambunctious rascal at times. Tee hee.
Thank you, Mimi’s mom, for the wonderful dinner.
Oh by the way, this weekend, a bunch of friends and I are baking up a storm for this month’s Foodbuzz 24 x 24! It’s gonna be an awesome gastronomical project, and I can hardly wait!
Question of the Day: What’s your thoughts on singlehood? It’s okay. Be honest. I won’t be offended in the least.