What A Girl Wants

August 1, 2010

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I want a lot of things. And I never seem to stop wanting.

The Internet doesn’t help. Have you ever set up a wish list? Mine is never-ending. I’ve got dinnerware sets, cookbooks, kitchen appliances, Apple products, gourmet foods, headbands, cute Asian trinkets, and Cabbage Patch Dolls (don’t ask) in my wish list.

The CSNstores.com Promotions team contacted me recently about working with them again. They generously offered a $80 gift code to any of their sites, and I spent the next several hours drooling over their cookware site, just…wanting.

I want an immersion blender for fuss-free kabocha soup, a mini-refrigerator to store my assortment of cheeses and kimchi, a big-ass pot to cook my oatmeal, a Dutch oven to make beef bourguignon, a cast-iron skillet for Southern cornbread, an espresso machine for green tea lattes…and ooh! Did you know there’s actually 60+ different items just for serving your breakfast eggs? I so need this cute Mr Chin Egg Cup

Mr. Chin Egg Cup with Salt Castor and Spoon by Stefano Giovannoni(1) It even has an Asian name! That’s gotta be a sign, right? And while I’m at it, maybe it’s time to get a rooster fetishCertified-International-Provence-Rooster-Pitcher-by-April-CornellWhat? I’ve heard that it’s so French.

Now, here’s the thing about material wants—they never stop. For example, just a couple days ago, I finally got what I’ve “always wanted”. A big-ass camera. More specifically a DSLR. And even more specifically, a Nikon D5000 12.3 MP DX Digital SLR Camera:
DSC_0080Ooooh. Just saying it out loud (okay, copying and pasting from Amazon.com) makes me feel so tech-savvy. Holding the fancy gadget in my hands, caressing it tenderly, I was cooing with delight.
DSC_0088(P.S. I’m not showing my mouth because they’re stretched out hideously into a Cheshire grin)
 
I’ve been wanting an SLR for a very, very long time. Every time I saw someone with a SLR slung around their neck, I would stare longingly at the bulky, ostentatious object, and then frown down grumpily at my own little point-and-shoot. But now, I finally got one of my own, using the money I won at my school’s 2010 Webfest.

Oh, the euphoria. The wonderful, glorious feeling of finally getting what I’ve been wanting since forever!…It all lasted for about 2 days…before I started…wanting again. Strange thing about material gains, isn’t it? The satisfaction you get from it is so short. It’s like drinking salt water. You take a long sip, but then you get thirstier. No matter how much you have, you still get reminded of all the other things you don’t have. There will always be something bigger, better, and shinier out there.

Not that there is anything wrong with wanting material things. It’s human nature after all, and I think it’s actually healthy, so long as it’s not excessive. I just need to find a balance. I’ve categorized my wants into three groups:

  1. Things that I want, and need. Like clean underwear. Textbooks for school. A warm coat for winter. Shampoo. You know, those sort of things.

  2. Things that I want, but not necessarily need. For these things, I’ll have to make priorities, and set aside a few things I might indulge in occasionally, while just wistfully enjoy the others in my dreams (or send hints to people).

  3. Things that I want, but are harmful to me. Like a Wii. I’ll never be able to graduate if I got one, I’m sure of it.

Now, to which group does my new shiny camera fall? Hm, I was convinced it was #1, but then, a conversation with my junior pastor Joanne told me otherwise.

“You’re getting a new camera?” She exclaimed. “Do you even need it?”

I looked at her in surprise. “Of course! My camera right now is crap!”

“But I like your pictures,” Joanne said.

“Ah, but you haven’t seen pictures taken with a DSLR. They’re nicer. Crisper. Cleaner. They’re just…better…” my words trailed off and I started feeling rather ashamed as I realized how greedy I sounded. Dang, I realized. I want a lot of things.

It was the same thing yesterday during lunch at one of my local favorite dive, Amphora Diner. I met up with a new friend and blog reader, Yoshika, who asked to meet me after finding out that we lived so close to each other.
DSC_0051 Amphora is a 24-hour diner which is constantly packed full, no matter what time it is. It attracts all types of groups—the elderly retired folks, the harried mothers and their kids, the rowdy high school students.
DSC_0052I like their interior design. It’s old-fashioned, and they even have a counter for solo customers:
DSC_0054 Like all diners, their lighting is really crappy though. Thankfully I had my new fancy camera, which performs pretty well even in low lighting.
DSC_0055It’s food isn’t superb, but it’s consistently good, and they’ve got a HUGE menu. Yoshika and I were both flipping through our menus in despair, wondering what to order, because we just wanted them all. Sigh. Always wanting.

I finally settled on the Chicken Mango Wrap:
DSC_0061Chicken Wrap with Red Cabbage, Mango, Scallions, Red Onion, Lime, Cilantro, and Honey Yogurt Sauce. Side of fresh fruit.
DSC_0062 I was glad that the chicken was well-cooked, but I wish it was seasoned instead of being served plain. The ingredients were fresh and bright, but I also wanted there to be more honey yogurt sauce. Overall, I was really pleased with my meal.

Yoshika ordered the Vegetarian Moussaka:
DSC_0057 Layers of fresh eggplant, potato slices, red bell peppers, baked in tomato raisin sauce. Side of grilled vegetables.
DSC_0058 This was awesome! The vegetables were roasted until it was so tender, soaking up all the sweet-tangy tomato raisin sauce. It tasted a lot like lasagna, just without the pasta noodles. Hm, I should have asked them to grill my chicken wrap, because honestly, food just tastes better hot. Ack. Once again, always wanting more.

Yoshika’s dish also came with a side of celery and tzatziki sauce:
DSC_0060 We had a really great time together. Yoshika is half-Japanese, half-Taiwanese, and she comes from a family of foodies. So obviously, 70% of our conversation was about food. And since we’re both Asian, we talked Asian food: red bean paste, green tea cakes, okonomiyaki, kewpie mayonnaise…urgh! I must stop now.

I liked Yoshika a lot. We had a lot of things in common, and our conversation never lagged. In regards to our lovely time together, I didn’t want anything more. Our time together was perfect.
DSC_0064 Sadly, our picture together wasn’t. We asked the manager to take a picture for us, and apparently he’s never used a digital camera before because he doesn’t know how to focus. Grrr. I should have handed him the point-and-shoot camera instead.

Okay, guess what?! Me and my new baby (the Nikon D5000, I mean) will be headed to New York City tomorrow!!! I’ll be there from Monday till Wednesday, and I’ll be staying at a dear friend’s place in Brooklyn. I cannot wait!
DSC_0082 See ya in the Big Apple!!

Question of the Day: What is one thing you want but not necessarily need?

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Blond Duck August 2, 2010 at 5:35 pm

I’ve always wanted to try moukassa. I love thick, homey dishes like that.

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light delight with Tou Tou August 2, 2010 at 7:46 pm

Totally agree!! we can’t stop creating the list…..especially in the summer when all sales going on, I got shorts, and then I need shirts to pair with it, and then I need purse to pair with shirts, and then I need shoes to pair with shorts, …. , and on and on…well, just work hard, earn money and get all we want ;-) ))))

congrats on the webfest ward and congrats on the Cannon D5000! ( oh man, mine is only D400…not even comparable!, haha)
the Vegetarian Moussaka looks really yummy, that’s my style !

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Shannon, Tropical Eats August 2, 2010 at 7:47 pm

i wish we were in nyc together at the same time :( Can’t wait to read your recap of the city.. it’ll definitely help me out when im up there! woot woot! Enjoy playin with the new camera up there my dear

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Rachael August 2, 2010 at 7:58 pm

The reference to Cabbage Patch Kids – staple toy of my childhood (I had a redheaded one named Sally) – makes me feel a little closer to you, in a non-creepy way :) I kinda want one too, now!
Current want – a school bus. I have visions of clearing out the seats and making a comfy little house out of one that I can park in my backyard and use as a studio/writing space. I’m perusing Craig’s List daily..

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kelsey@snackingsquirrel.com August 2, 2010 at 8:18 pm

chicken mango wrap <3 mmmm i wish i was there to enjoy one with you :) haha for a second i thought i read that u put clean underwear under "this u want but are harmful to you" haha, totally worried me for a second until i checked my eyes :P

enjoy ur new camera!!! SO HI-TECH!

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Anusce@ Ciao-Chow August 2, 2010 at 8:42 pm

I love everything that Alessi makes including your Mr. Chin Egg cup! I own several Alessi pieces (being from Italy, Alessi is like well….Tupperware).

As for the one that thing I want but do not nee…..SHOES!!!!!! I can never have enough!

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Kerstin August 2, 2010 at 9:25 pm

Congrats on your new toy and I hope you have a fabulous time in NYC!

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Anne @ Food Loving Polar Bear August 2, 2010 at 10:26 pm

I’ve never had celery with tzatziki sauce, I must try that! I can’t eat it without a dip :D

I want so many things, but have learned to be a bit less greedy than I used to be ;)

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lynn @ the actors diet August 2, 2010 at 11:22 pm

have fun with your camera! the pix look great already.

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lequan@luvtoeat August 2, 2010 at 11:59 pm

Congrats on the new camera Sophia! Have fun taking all the wonderful pictures which I know I’ll most likely be drooling over. I would love to have a big HD projection screen in my basement, but I obviously don’t “need” to have one.

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Liwen August 3, 2010 at 1:08 am

Wow cool man!!!! U finally got what you want.. God loves you so much!!! :)

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~Jessica~ August 3, 2010 at 4:03 am

Oh, I can relate to this so much.

I think my life has been defined by ‘wanting,’ not just in terms of material goods. As soon as I achieve something, the satisfaction lasts for ten seconds and then I’m after my next goal. Nothing is ever good enough and I always want to strive for more. Desire, hunger, longing for success or to make something more of my life. I am never satisfied.

On the material side though, my ultimate ‘wants’ are: my own treadmill/elliptical and a Garmin Forerunner 405CX…oh, and a beautiful white road bike I saw online! I’m hankering after a triathlon despite injury. These are just pipe dreams though as I don’t think I’ll ever have the money for them!

Your camera is indeed very nifty! It takes beautiful photos too, although I agree that most of the beauty was there before, and comes from your skill as a photographer rather than the camera itself.

*hugs*

~Jess~
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Michelle @ Find Your Balance August 3, 2010 at 6:26 am

I try to avoid those wish lists. Sometimes I add books to my amazon wish list and later refer to it as I order stuff from the library!

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thenomadGourmand August 3, 2010 at 6:55 am

Lovely!
Wht happened to a Canon tho?

Anyways, most of the bloggers i knw totally swears by Nikon n a comin in a close second is Canon.
So u made a good choice!

And yea, fr those who doesnt knw how to use a tech-y cam, a P & S works best! LOL.

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Alycia @ Fit n Fresh August 3, 2010 at 8:19 am

You got an SLR! I’m so happy and JEALOUS!! Have fun in NYC – can’t wait for the pictures :)

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Heavenly Housewife August 3, 2010 at 8:58 am

I am always wanting new and fab things too. I think it has something to do with being a girl. Right now I want Bose noise cancelling headphones LOL they are great when you are traveling so u get total peace and quiet. I just came back from NY and will be posting all my adventures very soon, cant wait to hear about what you get up to. Have a wonderful time and a safe trip.
*kisses* HH
p.s. fab camera!

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Yum Yucky August 3, 2010 at 10:56 am

Oh great. So know I want my own SLR (aka, slurr) too. And that eggplant dish. But there’s a better chance I’ll grow eggplants outta me ears before getting that slurr.

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Sues August 3, 2010 at 11:52 am

The Internet totally doesn’t help my greediness either :) I have about a million dream kitchens picked out!! And that camera is totally making me swoon!

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Kaz August 3, 2010 at 1:20 pm

I used to want all. the. time. but I’ve learned so much about wants versus needs these past couple years. Oh, of course I have my wants — tons of them, really. But the thing that really made me think, and it was so hard to explain to my fella, was when I was watching Pawn Stars (strange name, but fascinating show) where people were trading in their sentimental valuables for money. That bone-handled dagger that great-grandpa got when he was overseas? Gone, for $500. That Coca-Cola toy passed down from daughter to daughter? Sold, for 75$. I was saddened by this, that somebody would trade in something with such family history for a few dollars in their hand. It made me realize that I’m so well taken care of (there’s food on the table, a roof over my head, and clothes on my back) that money has lost its value to me.

Okay, I know I don’t make sense whatsoever, but it just feels like I’ve finally gotten to a point in my life where surplus money seems frivolous when the bills are paid and there’s a warm bed to go to and a hot shower calling my name. No material things will make me happier than I am right now.

Sorry! I am just rambling. :P I think I’ve gone off on such a random tangent that I’m just babbling nonsense now. I don’t mean to sound self-righteous or anything; I still have my wants, but I guess I’m just at a place right now where I’m totally content with what I have, almost to the point that I’m spoiled.

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teresa August 3, 2010 at 3:08 pm

so so true. great post, but i am so excited for you and that camera, you’re going to have so much fun with that thing! and i love what you’re doing with your hair!

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CHeryl August 3, 2010 at 3:13 pm

Enjoy your camera and your trip! I find the older I get the less i want :)

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Tiny Urban Kitchen August 3, 2010 at 3:46 pm

Your pictures with the new camera look fabulous!! I wish I had read your pot earlier!!! I was in NYC Mon to Tuesday and met up with several bloggers! I am now on a train heading back to Boston.

Next time!!

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jenn (Bread + Butter) August 3, 2010 at 5:38 pm

I’ve been making lists since I can remember. All full of wants and needs. Those that are essential and the non-essentials.

Cool new camera you got there. :)

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Jess August 3, 2010 at 7:20 pm

I don’t have a “want list!” Hmmm ;)

Delicious looking eggplant dish!!

<3 jess
xoxo

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Nicole August 3, 2010 at 8:17 pm

Beauuutiful camera, girl. Nokia is amazing. My phone = Nokia + it’s pictures are phenomenal.

I want…

more time, every day. Mainly with my hubby. Aaand Mexico. I want that, too.

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