My Parents’ Hometown

June 23, 2010

in eating disorders,eating out,family,God,My story,travel

GARRGH!!! The internet at where I’m living right now is driving me CRAZY! Who would have thought it’ll be so hard to find internet access here in tech-savvy Korea? I’m about to go crazy, because there is nothing to do here and I’m just stuck at home with no Internet and bad TV.

Other than the fact that I am tearing my hair out with angst from Internet-withdrawal, this trip to Korea is infinitely better than the one a year ago. I don’t find myself hiding behind my parents when I meet my relatives in humiliation. Nobody is putting on a fake smile, cautiously touching me in fear that they may break me accidentally. 

Instead, the speech that my parents always give—that God will heal me, that my eating disorder is naught for vain—is repeated, but this time as a proud testimony. And this time, none of my relatives looked at me and my parents with deep sorrowful pity, but with gratefulness, hope, and…faith.

Seeing my relatives again, it reminded me again how much I owe my life to my parents. My relatives may have faith now, seeing my much restored health with their own eyes, but my parents have always had faith, even during the time I was hooked up to several wires and tubes in the Intensive Care unit of the hospital. God, my parents are amazing.

So I thank my parents. For keeping me alive with their faith. And I thank my extended family in Korea. For making me feel alive with their abounding joy and delight, and for celebrating life with me.

The first relative I met in Korea was my paternal grandmother (my grandfather passed away 3 years ago). My grandmother isn’t really my grandmother by blood. She became my father’s step-mother after my real grandmother passed away 25 years ago, before I was even born, so she is the only paternal grandmother I know and love. She’s 80 years old, but she could pass off for 20 years younger, me thinks:
IMG_4954 She now lives in Seoul with her niece, and my parents and I took an hour’s bus ride to visit her. We wanted to take her out for lunch, but she and her niece insisted that we come over for a home-cooked meal. And let me tell you—you never want to turn down an offer for a real home-cooked meal in Korea. Because there are no hosts more gracious than Korean hosts, and you can almost guarantee that they won’t serve you ready-made lasagna from Costco or God forbid, steamboat. Just look at this spread:
IMG_4962 These are the typical meal you would be served in a Korean home. My grandmother did not provide any red meat dishes though,  because she knew my father detests meat. Instead, all these dishes were vegetable and fish heavy. Let me introduce a few dishes to you. Here’s a curious one:
IMG_4955 Acorn jelly, sliced and dressed with a soy sauce-garlic-scallion dressing and fresh-chopped greens.

There’s also the popular Korean pan-fried “nuggets”:
IMG_4956 White fish, shitake mushroom, and zucchini jeon, battered in egg and pan-fried.

This is Jap-Chae:
IMG_4957 Korean festival noodles, mixed with stir-fried spinach, carrots, onions, black ear fungus, and shitake mushrooms. I have a recipe for it here if you want. It’s gluten-free, because the noodles are made with sweet potato starch!

Speaking of sweet potatoes, here’s some Sweet Potato croquette:
IMG_4964 This was one of my favorite dishes here. Fried crispy patties made with a mixture of Korean sweet potato and ground pork.

Our hosts also served us a rather precious delicacy:
IMG_4958 Marinated spicy dodock kimchi. I must have expensive tastes, because this was my favorite dish! Dodock is a precious commodity in Korea. It’s actually a root, but has a lovely chewy consistency, and tastes a bit like spicy dried fish or something.

There was also dried salted spicy fish:
IMG_4959 And spicy pickles and cockles (also a variation of kimchi):
IMG_4960 And sweetened black beans and pickled garlic to rev up the appetite:
IMG_4961 Finally, last but not least, the main dish:
IMG_4965There will almost always be some sort of stew or soup in a Korean meal. Ours was called Mae Oon Tang, or “spicy stew”. This is a traditional Korean stew that consists of a spicy seafood broth, cooked with all sorts of different seafood, but always with a whole fish. It’s served in a great big pot, and then ladled out in individual portions, like so:
IMG_4966 That was my portion. I asked for fish but no shrimp or abalone. We ate all these dishes, plus a whole bowl of steamed, glistening white rice. Koreans don’t cal la meal a real meal unless there is soup and rice.

After this grand feast, my parents and I positively waddled out of the house! I was starting to feel really sleepy from the heavy meal, but we still had a long road ahead of us: a 4-hour drive down to my hometown, Jeon-Ju.
IMG_4967 I normally abhor bus rides…but I love riding the buses in Korea, mainly because they have AWESOME terminal stops. I would endure a long bus trip just for the food they sell in the terminal stops! My parents and I were still full from the big lunch my grandmother provided but we still went all out with our mid-stop snack. It’s almost impossible not to buy something, when you see women like this griddling up fragrant pancakes like these:
IMG_4969 This is a Korean glutinous rice pancake called Ho tteok, stuffed with brown sugar and peanuts.
IMG_4970 My parents and I bought a pack of three to share:
IMG_4977 Mmm…So good, especially hot from the griddle, when the brown sugar is hot and caramelized in your mouth, together with the crunchy peanut bits.

Another awesome snack are these fried whole potatoes, called Tong Koguma:
IMG_4972 These are peeled mini potato balls, coated with sugar and then fried on a griddle until crispy and caramelized on the outside, and then sprinkled with coarse salt and more sugar. SO good!!!
IMG_4973And we certainly can’t forget the fried glutinous sesame rice balls!
IMG_4974 This is my favorite item in the Korean bakery, except this is 10 times better because it is deep-fried instead of baked like the usual sesame rice balls. It is chewy like mochi, with a gooey sweet bean paste inside:
IMG_4976IMG_4983  But my absolute favorite is the glutinous corn:
IMG_4971 I usually dislike whole corn, but the corn here is SUPER good. It’s not the normal sweet yellow corn you find in the States—this is less sweet, and paler in color, and each kernel is so, SO chewy. They are steamed with a bit of sugar to sweeten it up a bit, but otherwise, it’s like chewing on little nuggets of savory, corn-flavored mochi cakes.

If you can’t tell already, my parents and I really, really love chewy carby stuff. And it made me so happy to see how delighted my parents were to indulge in their childhood favorites, and to be back in their native land. I guess it’s the same euphoria I feel when I am back in Singapore.

We finally reached Jeon-Ju in the evening, and took a cab to my aunt’s (my mother’s younger sister’s) house. That’s where I’m staying right now, and I’ll be staying here for almost a week more. My aunt’s place is a really nice apartment, save for the fact that the wireless Internet just sucks ass.

My maternal grandparents rushed over immediately when they heard we had arrived:
IMG_4992IMG_4993As soon as I saw them, I had a totally different feeling with them than from the time I met my paternal grandmother. The sad truth is that both my grandparents health are deteriorating exponentially. I don’t know when they will pass away, but I doubt they’ll live for more than 3 years. They’re one of the main reasons I’m here, because I was desperate to let their hearts be at peace about me before they passed away.

It was a rather touching moment. My grandfather started sobbing when he saw me, and my grandmother couldn’t stop grasping my hands and marveling at how much I’ve changed, and how thankful she is to the Lord.
IMG_4991 My uncle came along too, and he brought my little cousin along!
IMG_4988God, I couldn’t stop staring at him. He is SO adorable! I didn’t realize I had a gooey side within me but I fell in love with him the moment I saw him. I guess you can’t just deny blood ties!
IMG_4989 He’s an eater, too. This little boy eats well, and it’s so pleasant to see him enjoy his food. My mom called him a Doong Gae or “Fat Puppy” in Korean. Don’t worry, it’s not an insult, but an endearing term if said in a right way. But whatever this Doong Gae was eating, it looked good, so I made him share some with me:
IMG_4994 Korean glutinous rice cakes. Chewy. Dense. Yummy.

At 11pm, my other cousin finally arrived from school. Yes, at 11pm. She’s been in school from 8am-11pm!!!!! Don’t even get me started on the ridiculous education system in Korea!
IMG_4996 My cousin’s name is Yoonji, and her mother is the aunt whose house I am staying in right now. She is my favorite cousin, period. She is about 4 years younger than me, and she is so, so, so lovable.
IMG_4997 She’s the kind of person you just can’t help falling in love with at first sight—adorable, happy, cheerful, generous, kind. We went to a local cafe, Java Dave, for something sweet. One thing about Korean cafes is that it’s very, very high-class and well decorated.
IMG_4995Each cafe has their own theme and charm, and they always look so chic and modern.
IMG_5006  I ordered a yogurt gelato:
IMG_5002IMG_5003  And she ordered a Toffee Nut iced latte:
IMG_5001Yoonji also happens to have the very object of my desire, a Canon EOS 550D. And she likes taking pictures of her food, too:
IMG_5005 A food blogger in the making? Maybe it’s in our blood, huh?
IMG_4999Those are her glasses by the way. It’s “in” to wear mega glasses bigger than your face these days. Just as it’s “in” to study your ass off in Korea, it seems. I came at a bad time, right smack in the middle of examinations for my cousin. Even when she’s back home late at night from school, she’s still studying till early morning!
IMG_5000 Thus there is nothing to do but mope around the house bemoaning my lack of social network. So I guess it’s ta-ta! Off to mope…

Question of the Day: What was the best home-cooked meal you had (by a host other than yourself)? What is your favorite thing to eat during road trips? And tell me—do you love your cousins as much as I do?

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Kat June 23, 2010 at 9:59 pm

You are eating so many yummy looking things!

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Carolyn Jung June 23, 2010 at 10:47 pm

Love that potato cooked with a little sinful sugar. But love the family pics even more. ;)

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Natalie June 23, 2010 at 10:54 pm

awww looks like you are having a lot of fun. those eats look so delicious, especially the jap chae and the fried mochi… yummmmm!!!

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Sara @ Nourish and Flourish June 24, 2010 at 12:02 am

I was really touched by your remarks about your parents’ enduring faith!

The meals you’re sharing with your family look incredible! Can you find similar items in Korean restaurants in the US? Or are these dishes typically only prepared in the home?

And yes, your grandmother looks nowhere near 80! Does she have any secrets she wants to share? I’m guessing it’s all that wonderful food!

I love corn on the cob–in fact I ate an ear for dinner tonight–but I’m sure I’d enjoy glutinous corn even more because I really enjoy mochi.

My favorite home cooked meal is my grandmother’s macaroni and cheese. It’s rich, cheesy comfort, and totally worth every bite!

I’m astounded

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burpexcuzme June 24, 2010 at 6:58 am

Hee, most of the dishes can be very easily made at home, especially the croquette and jeon. They would most likely sell the side dishes stuff in Korean supermarkets, if you can find one nearby. As for the stew, if you can find Koreatown, they should sell different kinds of stew similar to the one I had! :-)

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Sara @ Nourish and Flourish June 24, 2010 at 12:04 am

Oops! I don’t know where that “I’m astounded” came from! I’m astounded it’s there! haha

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Floey June 24, 2010 at 12:11 am

Sophia,
Once again, incredibly inspired by your post. I feel the same way about wanting my grandparents to see me healthy and happy before they pass, since they’re seen me @ my worst as well when I was in the hospital.
It’s so amazing to see all the risks and hurdles you’re crossing food wise on your trip. It’s amazing to see how much you’ve grown in conquering your ED!
Your cousins both seem adorable and seem to be taking on some of your bloggy traits as well!

:) floey

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Jen Cheung June 24, 2010 at 1:36 am

hey ya,
at least you can access your websites! when I was in China for 1.5months, I couldn’t access facebook NOR my web pages. my laptop felt so useless! I didn’t even open it the second time!! lucky you! have loads of fun!! hehe

jen

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thenomadGourmand June 24, 2010 at 2:23 am

Oh my god! Whr did u get those geeky glasses from??
And why dont u “borrow” yr cousin’s Canon why she’s not at home? I mean, heck, she aint at home at all! (loking at her school schedule) Yup Korean schoolin system is screwed. Such long hours.

Oh my, I think i will love Korea – all that Ho tteok (whc reminds me of roti pratha!) and BALLS of all kinds – my FAVE!! ;p

I’m sorry to hear abt yr grandparents health..but u did make them very happy to see your condition now! ;)

also, tht’s a lot of flights to take over one holiday right? LOL.

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OysterCulture June 24, 2010 at 5:35 am

I cannot believe your grandmother is 80 – she looks so much younger. again you’re killing me with the food shots. They all look amazing! Thank goodness, they don’t have scratch and sniff on food blogs yet, or I’d be done.

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Rachel (tea and chocolate) June 24, 2010 at 8:12 am

Ahh so much Korean food! One of my friends is Korean, and occasionally her parents make us a delicious feast. Looks like your having a lot of fun!

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annie June 24, 2010 at 10:14 am

OMG I LOVE JAPCHAE!! i love acorn jelly too! omg sooooo jealous! i’m going to make my mom make me japchae tonight! haha

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Shannon June 24, 2010 at 12:46 pm

aww, great company and lots of fabulous food! no bemoaning allowed ;)

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msmeanie June 24, 2010 at 2:09 pm

Wow oh wow. Your grandmother must love you lots to prepare such an amazing feast for you. Seriously, everything on that table looks fantastic. And you are right — there is no way she looks 80!! I hope you are enjoying your parent’s hometown. It is always fun/interesting to see where your parents spent their childhoods, shaping who they are today.

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lisaiscooking June 24, 2010 at 2:28 pm

Really lovely photos. That’s a beautiful photo of you with your grandmother, and she doesn’t look a day over 60! Great-looking food too. Amazing snacks at the terminal stops.

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The Rabbit Runner June 24, 2010 at 3:18 pm

I am SO glad to hear that you are enjoying your time in Korea and not letting ED dictate you this time. I also think its great that your really connecting with your family!! They all look so cute and friendly too :)
I really want to try Korean food. Sadly there is NO place in my small town, but when I go to college there is a large korean population so one girl said she would take me!! those rice balls look crazy good.

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Barbara June 24, 2010 at 7:31 pm

Why don’t you look over some recipes and ‘Sophia-ize’ them (put your unique Sophie spin on them)! Instead of being bored, why not write down some recipes, check out local food stalls and get ideas for when you go home, or make a list of foods you want to try to make when you return? Take pictures and make your own cookbook? OR why not cook your family a wonderful ‘Thank you for being there for me’ dinner?
Your uncle’s cousin is beyond adorable! What a gorgeous kid! And those Sweet Potato dumplings!!??DROOLING!
I am so glad you got to hang out with your cousin- it’s good to be around people you can talk to!!
Sending you lots of love!
B

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jenn (Bread + Butter) June 24, 2010 at 7:51 pm

I’d have to say my aunt cooking would be the best homecooked meal I’ve had in a long while. When I was in the Philippines, she cooked me some of my favorites. I love her dearly as well as all my cousins. I love them all dearly. I do wish i could see them more often than just every couple years.

btw…I love the pic of you and your mom!!

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lesley June 25, 2010 at 2:56 am

What a great trip you’re having Sophia!!
Baz worked in Korea, sadly I haven’t been…wives not allowed Grrr! He said the food was amazing! Certainly looks like it from your post. How lovely to see you with your family. I know we all grow old, I no longer have my Grandmother with me & I think about her often, & cherish the memories I have. My dad’s philosophy on life is: don’t worry about getting old….worry about NOT getting old, I have to take a leaf out of his book!
My fav meal is Sunday roast! :0)

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Jackie (Peaces of Earth) June 25, 2010 at 8:16 pm

This post warmed my heart!!! You have an amazing family and I was really touched hearing about their faith and happiness in seeing you. Also, the food looks amazing!! What a spread!

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Bekah June 26, 2010 at 7:14 am

Is that your momma in the one picture of you and her? She’s so beautiful! (As are you of course.) But seriously, gorgeous! I love how much your family loves food too. I know in some cases eating disorders can be influenced by family opinions regarding what to eat, how to eat, how much to eat, etc. But its nice to know that in your case, your family is very adamant about eating well! mmm I’m hungry now.

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Simply Life June 27, 2010 at 6:09 am

So fun to see the traditional meal!

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Aletheia August 7, 2010 at 10:24 pm

“In fact, he only just discovered the meaning of “dude” and has been excitedly using the word any chance he can get.”

LOL. I have been reading through your archives and after reading that sentence, the prospect of meeting your awesome dad in the near future has just made me this much more excited.

<3 Aletheia

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