Guess what? I was in tears today again for my 22nd birthday. But it wasn’t tears of sorrow or despair or self-pity. It was tears of joy and thanksgiving.
My parents had sent me a birthday package (ooh I wonder what it is?) but it wasn’t due to arrive until tomorrow or Friday, so my dad sent me a copy of his birthday letter to me by email:
It is in Korean, and it’s like 3 pages long, so I won’t translate it all, but here’s a quick summary:
My dad told me that he spent the whole day flipping through my old photographs. He detailed each one for me, progressing through the course of my life: the day I was born and sat on the palm of my dad’s hand, the day I turned one and dressed in traditional Korean clothing, the day I got a new brother and cried for the lack of attention, the first day I went to pre-school without a moment’s nervousness…all leading up to even those few pictures of me emaciated and ill.
All throughout the course of my life, He drew a clear picture for me on how God was present in me, leading and guiding me every step of the way. And then he mentioned all the people who have cared for me, who have prayed for me, who have loved and blessed me, and how God answered their prayers by restoring my spiritual, mental and physical health…
I couldn’t help it. Each time I read a new paragraph, fresh tears flowed as my heart was gripped with a complex mix of overwhelming emotions: love, appreciation, gratefulness, even pain.
You know…every birthday, I had always expected something out of other people. Whether it is for them to remember my birthday, or say “Happy birthday” to me, or give me presents, etc, I’d always met my birthday with the idea that I should be the one who is celebrated.
Well, from this birthday onwards, I am switching it around. I’m not celebrating myself, but I’m celebrating all the people who has played a part in my life. Because without them, I would not be the person I am now.
So thank you, God, for your everlasting grace and mercy.
Thank you, mom and dad, for never giving up on me and loving me despite all the pain I’ve given you.
Thank you, my brother, for enduring all the family dramas, and treating me so gently and patiently.
Thank you, my church, for always praying for me and supporting me.
Thank you, my friends, for sticking by me and comforting me.
Thank you, my fellow bloggers (and readers), for listening to me and giving me constant motivation and encouragement.
And finally, thank you, my body, my soul, my life, for not failing on me, even though I never treated you well.
And of course, I’ve got to celebrate food. After all, I’ve been abusing it for many years. It’s time I started treating it right—eating it, enjoying it, digesting it, and using the energy to live out the best life I can.
I contemplating having noodles for my birthday, but I decided that I better stick to my trademark favorite ingredients. Can you guess what they are?
If you said kabocha, check. Cheese? Check. And gochujang to highlight my mother country? Check. The only thing missing is a runny egg, but three is a crowd already.
Korean BBQ-Style Stuffed Kabocha
- 1 small kabocha (mine was about 3 lbs?)
- 4 oz ground turkey
- 1/2 cup diced bell peppers
- 1/2 cup diced zucchini
- Korean BBQ Marinade (recipe below)
- 1 tsp olive oil
- 1/2 small red onion
- feta cheese
- Parmesan cheese
Korean BBQ Marinade:
- 2 cloves garlic, minced
- 1 tsp ginger, minced
- 1/4 cup soy sauce
- 1 tablespoon gochujang
- 1 tsp red pepper flakes (optional)
- 1 tsp sesame oil
- 1 tablespoon honey
- black pepper
Cut the kabocha in half, and scoop out the insides:
Next make the Korean BBQ marinade by mixing all the ingredients together in a bowl. Mix in the turkey, bell peppers, and zucchini:
Set aside, and let it marinade for about an hour in the fridge.
Then heat up some oil in a skillet, and start cooking the onions:
Once the onions get kind of soft, toss in the turkey-vegetables mixture, pouring in all the marinade as well:
Cook until done:
Bake at about 425 degrees for about 20 minutes, and then top with feta and Parmesan cheese, and bake for 10 more minutes until cheese is melted and the kabocha is cooked through.
Oh my gosh. I can’t believe this is the first time I tried stuffing a kabocha. I’ve been seeing these around in a lot of blogs, such as The Broccoli Hut, and am I super-glad I tried it out! But of course I had to put my unique spin by going Korean-style!
The marinade is amaaaaaazing. Have you guys ever tried the spicy Korean pork BBQ called duaejikogi? I used the same marinade recipe for this.
Spicy, with a touch of sweetness, and inteeeeense! Totally freaking flavorful.
I didn’t cook the vegetables too much, so that they don’t get mushy, but retains a bit of a crunch.
Do you eat the skin? Nothing was left when I was done with this.
By the way, nobody except Mimi and Kathryn knows about my birthday. I find it kind of awkward to go around boasting about my 22nd birthday to my 18-year-old friends, heh heh.
But one of my friends somehow found out and sent me this beautiful flowers:
And I got a new USC mug!
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USC indeed!
Thank you for all your emails, tweets, and facebook messages wishing me a good birthday. Today was definitely the most amazing birthday I had…because for once, I’m not celebrating myself, but others. And you know what? I am freaking blessed, because I am surrounded by beautiful, amazing people. Now that, is the best birthday present I can ever want!
P.S. To commemorate a new beginning of a new 22nd year, I’ve updated my About Me Page…Please check it out! >.<
Question of the Day: What was the best birthday gift you’ve received? Doesn’t need to be something physical. Oh, and when is your birthday? You don’t need to share the age though!
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That was very nice of your Dad. Happy Birthday!
HAPPY BIRTHDAY SOPHIA!!! I am so happy that you cried tears of joy! this is what i wished for you if you cried at all!
how sweet of your dad!! and beautiful flowers from your friends!!
mmm feta is amazing and so is that recipe so the two together, I cannot even imagine the flavor combos going on in your mouth! great recipe!:)
Happy happy birthday Sophia!
I am so glad this new year has been a great start for you, and I hope it is the beginning of a lot of wonderful things for you, you deserve it!
Happy birthday!
To answer your question about using tapioca in the beer-braised short ribs-> It absorbs the liquid.
Beautiful post
I definitely got choked up a little at the summary of your dad’s email.
I loooove Korean bbq. Thanks for the marinade recipe, I’ll def try it out. I’m hoping I can find the gochujang!
Happy Birthday!
Haaaaappy belated birthday Sophia!!!! <3
I wonder if this is something we all start to realize as we get older? After I turned 20, I realized it was more important for me to spend time with my family for my birthday than out partying with my friends. I mean, my mom technically put in more work than I ever did. All I did was just show up!
Last year, we baked a carrot cake and drank champagne together. It wasn't wild or full of crazy excitement, but it will go down as one of my favourite birthdays ever
I’m glad you had such a good day.
And wow the food looks yum, your food always looks gorgeous, you need a restaurant I think.
Happy birthday! That note sounds so special and touching. I hope you triple saved it and printed out extra copies to cherish
My b-day’s March 29th. I can’t really think of the best present I got off the top of my head
Happy Birthday, it sounds like your father sent you an incredible gift. Enjoy this day!
Happy birthday!
What an incredibly sweet thing your father did! I am inspired to write a letter for all of my loved ones’ birthdays next year.
FELIZ CUMPLEAÑO!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
Dude next time you come to nyc, you know you are staying with me (you have an open invite) …and I’m making you cook ha
Happy birthday again, Sophia!
Reading your dad’s letter got ME all teary eyed! What wonderful parents you have
And you’re right – God is SOO good to us, isn’t he?
Thank you for sharing your faith with the blogging world and reminding me to always be thankful!
Great minds think alike – I made kalbi jjim with kabocha squash!! deelicious combination!
Happy birthday little lady! i wish i were turning 22 again!
my birthday is August 19th and i am turning 28 next year.. OLD OLD OLD!!!!!
that BBQ looks so awesome.. i have some ribs, i should try out the marinade this weekend or something.. YUMMMMMMMM
happy birthday girl! i haven’t heard from you in a while and am missing your sweet comments! So glad you are happy!! You deserve it!!
Happy birthday Sophia!! What a fantastic way to celebrate your birthday – kabocha and a long reminder of home and the people who love you.
OK, now I really really want some kabocha. 
My dad is sounding more and more like yours. He’s usually pretty serious and not too liberal with expressing emotions, but he surprises me. Particuarly during birthdays when he seems to pour his heart out in a letter or email or get this – he made me a powerpoint presentation (hahaha) complete with pictures and music. *sigh* Thank you for reminding us all that even though it isn’t OUR birthdays, we have people we need to be thankful for, cuz they’re here for us every day of the year.
P.s. You can get Nutridel cookies online! And I believe in select coffee shops on the west coast. (I’m jealous)
Happy Birthday Sophia!
What a beautiful letter!!
So glad you celebrated life for your birthday, you are truly blessed and I feel blessed to know you and your encouragment!
Love the kombucha filled goodness!
HAPPY BIRTHDAY MISS SOPHIA! i love your idea of celebrating those who have helped you get to your birthday – that is so refreshing and just one of the million reasons i think people can learn so much from you. i can only imagine the letter from your dad would have made me burst in tears too
my birthday is december 21st…and the best gift i ever received…hmmm, probably just the fun times i have had with people celebrating!
what a great gift from your dad! he sounds so inspiring and encouraging always. how right to celebrate all the people who’ve made you who you are but of course you have to count YOURSELF because you’ve helped yourself grow into everything you are today!!!! happy birthday sweet girl!!!
So glad you had a wonderful birthday! You are so sweet and deserve every bit of joy.
tragedy!
Oh my gosh, I wanted to make a stuffed kabocha recipe this weekend! mmm I still have yet to try it because the other one I got went bad on the counter
Happy birthday SOFIA!!! Glad it’s full of joy. May you have many more years of health and happiness!
Happy birthday! I’m glad you had a good one
Happy birthday. My 22nd birthday was an interesting one because I had just graduated from college a couple months earlier and was still a bit in my homesick/weird adjustment phase. It’s hard to pick a favorite gift so I would say the best one is just having my parents to fly out and spend my birthday with me. It means a lot.
happy birthday!
that is soo sweet!! happy birth day and have a great halloween week
Beautiful writing, Sophia, just like you!
Happy birthday! How beautiful of a gift to receive from your parents, and I completely understand what you mean about thanking all the people who have come along side of you to encourage you!
Your food looks amazing too!
Happy Birthday!!!!
Tears of joy are the best
Last time it happened to me was post-breakup because all of my friends were just SO wonderful and there for me
Hope you have a fun day!
My best gift was a trip to NYC
what a wonderful birthday, many reasons to celebrate! and the food is lovely!
march 26th is my birthday, and from now on, i’ll be turning 25 lol!
Happy happy birthday, Sophia!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
I hope you have an absolutely blessed and happy day
Happy Happy birthday! So glad you had a great day!
I think my most special birthday was when I just met my husband and he took me out for our first fancy dinner where a few years later we got married
Happy Birthday!! Hope you are having a fantastic day! We’ll have to have a belated celebration in SF
This is so beautiful and so truthful. I never thought of a birthday in that sense but you just changed my views. Your father seems like such a wise person and you are very fortunate. What a wonderful gift!
Happy birthday, love. You are incredible.
<3Karina
That is something to celebrate. Happy Birthday Sophia. I’m so glad that it’s a joyous one
Happy birthday! How exciting. Just checked out your blog for the first time and it’s adorable! Hope you had an awesome day :O).
- Beth @ http://www.DiningAndDishing.com
Sophia! I can’t leave my normal novel-esque comment because I have to run off to class. I just wanted to say that you had me nearly in tears in the library with this post. It’s amazing and precious. Happy birthday, sweetpea. I send my love!
Happy Birthday Sophia!
Happy birthday. May you have joy and luck for many long years.
Happy birthday!!! I feel terrible, yesterday I had it in my head all day, remember to wish Sophia happy birthday and then I forgot to do it when I got home! So sorry its late but Happy Birthday!
Im glad this year was a better one for you, hopefully many more good ones to come
xoxo
FELIZ CUMPLEANOS, SOPHIA!!!
I love what you shared of your dad’s letter; everything he says to you always makes me tear up. You are so fortunate to have such supportive, loving and wise parents. Runs in the fam, I suppose
What a great meal!
Your parents seem so wonderful. They always seem to take the time to express their heartfelt emotion. That’s pretty rare.
Happy Birthday!!
What a sweet way to approach your birthday! You are awesome! And so is that kabocha!!
Beautiful Birthday sentiments. Happy Birthday Dearie!
And you know I’m completely drooling over that stuffed kabocha.
Happy belated birthday. No matter how many feelings make up a birthday, it’s definitely good to celebrate a new year. Hope yours is fabulous.
Happy belated birthday, our beautiful and Sophia!
Happy Birthday
I’m glad you had an awesome time.
and the best birthday gift I ever got? My 18th Birthday weekend, I went to go see my teacher’s band play a gig and he said happy birthday to me on stage. I also really got to know my boyfriend that weekend. Here’s hoping 19 will be even better.
Katie x
Aww how sweet. And HAPPY BIRTHDAY!!!
xo
PS Looks tasty!
Hi Sophia! Happy birthday! Just wanted to drop you a quick note to let you know I’m back to blogging. I have so many of your posts to get caught up on – your blog has always been one of my faves!!!
Happy Birthday! Your dad’s letter sounds really touching.
Happy Belated Birthday Sophia! Goddess of the Kabocha! What a sweet letter – one to be treasured forever. I hope you had wonderful birthday! This stuffed squash looks yummy.
Looks like it was a really fantastic birthday! Your dad’s email is incredibly touching. And awww, the flowers are so sweet! And of course the kabocha recipe looks delish. Even though I can’t find kabocha (still!) I think I’ll try that Korean BBQ…I bet it’d be great on so many things!
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