Prejudices

July 3, 2009

in family,My story,recipes

My brother surprised me today.

I’d always thought he was sort of a wandering soul, aimless and directionless, being satisfied with whatever life throws at him and just…you know, going with the flow. Maybe I even looked down on him a bit, for being happy in a mediocre school, with mediocre grades, always striving for nothing more than average.

But boy, was I mistaken.

We had our weekly college prayer group today, and today we all shared about what we thought our “calling” was. What did we want to achieve in life? What was God’s purpose for us?

When it came to my brother’s turn, I kind of expected him to just do his usual shrug and say, “I dunno.” But instead, he began giving a detailed sharing about how much he learned through his major of hospitality management in college, and that he really had a feeling that God would use him in this direction. He said that though he wanted to work in this business field, his ultimate dream was to fund for mission trips to all around the world, to support my dad’s ministry, and to build orphanages in China. He said it so sincerely and solemnly that I totally believed it would come true.

I’d always complained about how my brother has no vision in his life and how he is always wasting his time on meaningless things. But one day, a friend of mine who is also friends with my brother told me that she felt I didn’t give my brother enough credit. She suggested that my brother had more potential and wisdom in him than I thought and that the reason he did not open up to me was because I already had a prejudice against him and did not give him the opportunity. At that time I got rather upset, but now…I admit that perhaps…she was right.

This realization just made me question once again the way I view other people: Do I have an iron-wall of prejudice in my perception of others? Am I blind to the goodness and potential of other people? And why…oh why do I view other people this way? What gave me the right and privilege of criticizing other people? Am I so great to pinpoint the flaws of others, much more my own younger brother’s?

Yeah, so I totally repented today.
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I’m so sorry, little bro! From now on I shall never look upon you that way again. I’m sure there is much more wisdom and potential in you than I gave you credit for! (After all, you are my brother, haha)

And speaking of prejudices…I used to hate peppermint. I thought it tasted like toothpaste. But I repented for that also today when I put on my oven mitts to bake this wonderful, aromatic cake this morning:
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It’s Double-Chocolate Peppermint Cake!!!
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Two different batters: one dark chocolate batter, one peppermint-infused white chocolate, both studded with more chocolate chips, baked together into one glorious cake!! Intense? Yup. But yet so…light in a sense because of the moistness and the refreshing peppermint!
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I got the recipe here from Baking Bites. Try it, you’ll think it’s Christmas already!

And you know what prejudice I’ll never get rid off? That anything with blueberries is gooooood. That my blueberry-walnut pesto is freaking versatile and amaaaaaaazing (Yes, it needs that many “a”s). Of course, today’s highlight meal of the day needed another good dollop of that pesto:

Blueberry-burst Chicken Flatbread Pizza

  • whole wheat flatbread
  • 2 tablespoons blueberry-walnut pesto, mixed with a bit of Greek yogurt
  • bunch of fresh salad greens
  • grilled chicken, chopped
  • deli ham, torn into pieces
  • handful fresh blueberries
  • handful crumbled feta cheese
  • handful shredded cheddar cheese

Smear the pesto mixture all over the flatbread, pile on the rest of the ingredients, bake at 375 degree oven for about 15 minutes.
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Helloooooo, baby!
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It’s so simple, yet the flavors are so intense and complex.
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Juicy bursts of the acidic-sweet blueberries, the intricate flavors of the pesto, the smokiness from the chicken and ham, and of course the pungency of the feta and sharpness of the cheddar!
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I found Organic Valley feta cheese on sale at Whole Foods, so cheese-whor
e that I am of course I had to grab it (who cares if I already have five different kinds of cheese in my fridge!)
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Oh, and I made one for my brother, too. That’s my way of apology. Others may buy flowers, but I cook/bake. He gobbled it up :-)

Okay, now. I’m off to stretch out and relax. Actually, I’ve been sedentary all day, but these skinny, much-abused feet need a break:
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They’re going to be busy soon in the future, running all around the world, so they need their rest! Tee hee.

Question of the day: Care to share a prejudice you have against someone/something? Or if that’s too personal…What is your way of apologizing?

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Mari July 4, 2009 at 11:39 am

Wow I hope your brother gets to realize his dream…

My biggest food prejudice is curry! I can not stand the smell of it…

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Pocky July 4, 2009 at 1:19 pm

Oh my gosh! Chocolate and peppermint cake. I’ve never heard of that before. /drool

Ok, I’ll have a couple slices of cake please. Oh and throw in a few slices of pizza too. Thanks! lol :)

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Maddy July 4, 2009 at 2:26 pm

That pizza is so creative! I have to try that!

I think my favorite way to apologize is with a sincere talk or phonecall. And food doesnt hurt either haha

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Laura July 4, 2009 at 2:39 pm

Ohh I bow down to you, your like a culinary Goddess!!! I love the look of your pizza :-)

Hmm my favourite way to apologise is by making the person something, be it their favourite food or just a just a little keepsake.

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Jen July 4, 2009 at 3:37 pm

Your food combination’s are so interesting! I love Flat bread pizza but never thought of one quite as unique as this one!

You are a good sister :)

I often pre-judge people myself…maybe because I am so hard on myself? Not sure but acknowledging it is a big step because most people don’t even realize it!

People can change for the better…We just have to be open to it and hope they will be open to us when we also change for the better.

Jen

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Marta July 4, 2009 at 3:42 pm

Happy 4th of July Sophia! I hope you’re enjoying a family day full of fun and yumminess!
What a lovely answer your brother gave to the question and what a great insight into his own world, into his feelings and aspirations. Sometimes we need these moments of prayer to really let ourselves shine and give ourselves for others to get to know us better. I’m glad you saw this side of him!
I don’t know about peppermint, my dear, I’m pretty set on my hating of all things mint-chocolate! hahaha how’s that for a prejudice! Like you say, I just feel like I’m eating right after having brushed my teeth… weird!
In all seriousness, I’ve tried to “cleanse” myself of prejudices, but I think they’re hard-wired in our brains and I’m sure I still have some, though life has managed to challenge almost every major prejudice I ever held.

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Rosie July 4, 2009 at 3:57 pm

Thank you so much for visiting my blog and how lovely to *meet* you :0)

What a lovely post and very touching indeed – I hope all your brothers dreams come true. All your dishes look wonderful but the Double-Chocolate Peppermint cake took my eye :D

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Kailey July 4, 2009 at 4:06 pm

wow thats so deep and nice of your brother!!

and double-chocolate peppermint cake? delicious? I think so!!! have a great day!

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Baylee July 4, 2009 at 4:13 pm

looove that this post was about your brother. although my brother is much younger, he is the EXACT same way. nothing phases him..he goes to school, plays sports, hangs out with friends, and has every girl in school chasing after him, and he doesnt care. in a sense, im slightly jealous that he’s so secure with himself, that he only cares about doing what he needs to do to fufill his dreams and make himself happy.

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Astra Libris July 4, 2009 at 4:17 pm

Your cake sounds glorious!! Ooooh la la! I love your invention of blueberry pesto, too – SO brilliant!!

Your story about your brother is very poignant and moving… I am really impressed by your ability for self-reflection and introspection – your brother is very blessed to have a sister who is willing to grow along with him, and write so beautifully and lovingly of his plans for the future…

My father and I used to have a lot of tension in our relationship, and I do think that it is, sadly, easier to hold prejudices against one’s family members because one loves them so much, and wants the best for them, that somehow those emotions get muddled up! I thank God every day, now, that my father and I are such good friends at last… :-)

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Heather @ Health, Happiness, and Hope July 4, 2009 at 6:45 pm

Too often we take for granted the people closest to us and simply expect them to be who we’ve always known them to be. But we should never underestimate those people… they just might surprise us! ;)

xxoo
Heather

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Reeni July 4, 2009 at 9:11 pm

I think you love blueberries just as much as I do! You use them much more creatively than me – love this pizza. You think ‘outside of the box’ when you cook. The cake sounds divine! Peppermint white chocolate – reminds me of Christmas candy bark, so delicious!

Your brother is so sweet and caring. You must of been so proud!

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Anne K. July 5, 2009 at 11:38 am

Aww, your bro is adorable! And his vision sounds so thought-out and self-less… I hope he gets to realize his dream.

I love your recipes! Blueberry and peppermint sounds like an unusual but delicious combo! And that flatbread looks so flavorful.

My favorite way to apologize is to do something special and meaningful for them–maybe bake something, or apologize and go do something fun. Going on a walk is a good way to talk and apologize :)

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elra July 5, 2009 at 12:07 pm

Your brother is so sweet, I think you are lucky to have him. ANd he is lucky to have a sweet sister like you as well

The cake, the flat bread pizza….. oh, they both sounds so good!

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Rebeca July 5, 2009 at 7:27 pm

That’s pretty cool of your brother… my brother and I were like that for awhile. Now, I think he’s pretty amazing. Who knew the kid I used to terrorize is now so mature and wise. I think he’s pretty lucky to have you too.

OMG you’re not allowed to post pics of cake unless you invite me over for a slice!

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Kerstin July 5, 2009 at 9:32 pm

Gorgeous pizza – I really want a bite right now!!

I thought that way about my little bro for many year too, but I’ve recently realized he’s grown up and it’s been great watching him accomplish his goals!

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janetha July 5, 2009 at 11:56 pm

your brother sounds like a great person. i love it when people humble me and i realize i was wrong about something. that pizza thang looks sooo good, and what a neat cake!

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EatingRD July 6, 2009 at 3:19 pm

oh man, I love peppermint and chocolate, the toothpastier the better for me! And I love your pizza idea, so colorful!

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